Book Notes | Take 100% Responsibility for Our Life: Success Principle No. 1
One of the most common beliefs in our culture is that we are entitled to a great life. We expect that somehow, somewhere, someone outside of us is responsible for filling our lives with happiness and success. But the reality and the basic fundamental of success is the realization that YOU are the only one person who is responsible for the quality of life that you live in. It means, I am the only person who is responsible for the quality/state of my life. Most of us have this attitude to blame something outside of us for parts of our life that we don’t like. We blame our parents, our bosses, our friends, the government, or our lack of money. We constantly play in the blaming game… but we never blame ourselves for lack of results in our life. To achieve big success in life, to get the things that we want for ourselves, we must take 100% responsibility for everything.
If we find ourselves blaming or complaining, then we are not taking 100% responsibility in our life. By taking 100% responsibility, it means we have to give up all our excuses, all our victim stories, all the reasons why we can’t and why we don’t have the things we want for our life. According to George Washington Carver, “99% of all failures come from people who have a habit of making excuses.” Upon knowing this, we have a choice. We have a choice to blame something for not having the things we desire or choose to take actions and take steps to get the things that we desire. We need to develop a different approach with the problems and situations that hinder us from achieving the things we want. If something doesn’t turn out as planned, then we will ask ourselves, “How did I create that? What was I thinking that resulted this? What do I need to do differently to get the result that I want?” With this kind of approach, we skip the process of looking for someone or something to blame but instead we go to the process of analyzing the situation and finding a solution to get the result that we want.
The concept of taking 100% responsibility is easily visualized using the following equation. Event plus Response equals Outcome (E + R = O). The basic idea of this equations tells us that the outcomes that we have in our life (whether success, failures, health, illness, joy or frustration) depends on the event and response that we have. If we don’t like the outcome that we are currently getting, there are two basic choices we can make. First, we can blame the Event (E) for our lack of results/outcome (O). Second, we can instead simply change our responses (R) to the events (E) until we get the outcomes (O) we want. Most people lack of results chose the first option. But the very few people who want to achieve real success make the effort and choose the second option. Let us learn to replace complaining and blaming with making requests and taking action that will help achieve our desired outcomes.
See you there…